Okay. I decided to write a short thing about this type of typical response I get (usually, but not always, from cis white dudes) in response to a horrific story about rape, in this case an Oklahoma police officer who has been accused by eight women of rape and assault.
It’s a horrible story, but of course this cop has supporters who are raising money for him on Go Fund Me, which is the same site supporters of officer Darren Wilson (the cop who murdered Mike Brown) used to raise funds.
I’m posting these tweets here as an example of what not to say when someone is trying to talk about rape, specifically police rape against communities of color (all of the women in the above OKC case are black).
These are great examples of micro-aggressions, annoying attempts at derailing a conversation.
1. NO ONE IS ASKING FOR CENSORSHIP. Bigots and rape apologists have the freedom to raise funds, and we have the freedom to call them assholes (and if that entails an organized campaign to pressure Go Fund Me into dropping this page, that is also not censorship. That’s called feedback)
2. If your immediate concern in the wake of a terrible story like this is to play devil’s advocate on behalf of a rapist, you’re an asshole
3. You cannot convince me for one second that the public’s response would be the same if these eight women were white.
4. YOU ARE NOT AN ALLY. You call yourself progressive, but really you’re a PUW (progressive until women). For example:
Here we have the “you used to do great work until you started talking about ladies” and “outright threat for talking about ladies and yelling at someone for being a rape apologist” varieties. (Jamie is tweeting the author of the threat, @Boss1000, in the above tweet, who said he was going to cancel his pre-order of our book)
Here at Citizen Radio we get these tweets ALL THE TIME whenever we talk about rape culture or women’s issues. These are the boys who luuurve when we yell at Blackwater or Wall Street, but recoil when we suggest maybe a crowdsourcing website shouldn’t support a rapist.
Again, no one is suggesting there shouldn’t be a trial, but you don’t need to send this guy money in the meantime.
But whatevs. I guess it’s easier to cry about censorship.